There’s a lot of talk right now about being an extrovert vs. an introvert. It is no secret that the extroverts are struggling during current times given the stay at home orders. Introverts may or may not be loving all the alone time. Yet there are many folks stuck in the middle between enjoying some more downtime and missing social interaction. Where do you fall and which do you most associate with? Not sure? Keep reading-this can help!
First, let’s look at the actual textbook definitions of the two types of personalities.
a shy reticent person
an outgoing, overtly expressive person
Prior to the crisis and being safe (stuck) at home, I most associated with being an extrovert. I love going to events, networking and being social in general. Heck, I began an entire Facebook group based around being social! My main job involves being social. Much of the activities I do involve being surrounded by large groups of people in either professional or social atmospheres. I thought I was an extrovert. Then I started looking into the characteristics more and more.
Now, I am not so sure. . .
Enter the Ambivert
personality balanced between introvert and extrovert
Lo and behold, I am neither! Honestly, this does not surprise me in the least. Because despite being a people person much of the time, I am also the type of person that absolutely loves my alone time to recharge. I need this time every so often to reset. And even though I enjoy being around others, time spent focusing on myself is much needed and enjoyed.
This quiz though short and sweet told me that I am an ambivert. And upon looking more into it, I can definitely see how I fit into the characteristics of being an ambivert. I still believe that I am extroverted in many ways but I do not fit the true definition of being an extrovert. On the other hand, despite having some introvert qualities, I don’t fully fit there either.
Of course I wanted more information so I dug a little deeper and took a few other quizzes and the majority of them said I am balanced right in between being an extrovert and an introvert. I’ve always felt like I associated with both and was never quite sure where I fell so I was excited to learn that there really is a solid in between, cue the ambivert.
If you are like me, taking these types of quizzes can be a pain-even the short ones! Especially when you get to the end and it says, “Enter your email to get your result” blah! So instead of taking several pesky quizzes or worse yet, entering your email to get results/pay to see them, let’s look at some characteristics of each so you can come to your conclusion of where you fall.
Below are the main characteristics I found when researching the differences between an introvert vs. extrovert. Now would be the perfect time to grab a piece of paper and jot down which of these characteristics fit you. Then compare your answers to the traits below. Give yourself one point for each characteristic in each category then compare numbers. Finally, see which personality you most associate with according to the points.
- Enjoys spending time alone
- Viewed as more reserved
- Working in quieter environments is preferred
- Learns through observation
- Alone time helps to recharge
- Energy can be drained from being around too many people
- Strong self-awareness
- Smaller groups of close friends
- Reflects before decision making
- Tends to listen more than they speak
- Likes being the center of attention
- Gains energy from being around others
- Outgoing and enthusiastic
- Good communicators
- Team oriented work environments preferred
- Makes decisions easily and/or quickly
- Speaks more often
- Action oriented
Tell Me More!
Y’all, I am not an expert at this at all. Actually, I learned a lot about introvert vs. extrovert personality types just while putting this post together. The reason for this post is to give you a simplified version of the two (really three) personality types so you could dive in and see where you fell without all the extras on many other websites.
However, if you are interested in learning more and want the detailed personality test (93 questions), it looks like much of the research points to the Myers-Briggs Personality Inventory (MBIT). This is one of those that will tell you your key traits and which type you are. You’ve probably seen these referred to by the acronyms such as INTJ, INFP, ENTP, etc.
I did not take that specific test. But, I did opt for a free version that you could find here on 16 Personalities. I’ve used their quizzes in the past and find the results to be chock full of great information and typically they are spot on with how I would describe myself. This quiz fit that and was pretty much spot on.
If you take the quiz and want to share what your personality type is, feel free to drop a comment below! Also let me know the outcome of tallying your points from above!
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